Edith: This totally depends on why, what kind of friends they are and what kind of people they are. If you just aren’t liking them because they are too loud, or they like things you hate, then why worry about them?

Ethel: I agree with Edith. If it doesn’t affect you personally or affect your relationship, I highly advise keeping it to yourself. If your partner’s friend makes themselves a problem, it might be time to bring it up then.

Edith: If they’re friends who can’t keep themselves out of your relationship, or have other toxic traits your partner may not realize, then definitely bring it up. You shouldn’t say you hate them, though. Being too blunt and unnecessarily rude can bring unneeded strain.

Ethel: I’ve actually had to bring this up with a past partner, and it wasn’t easy. Keeping open communication with your partner is really important. Say things like, “I think this person isn’t good for me to personally interact with because of ‘x’ reason.”

Edith: Luckily, I can mention that I dislike somebody my partner talks to, and they understand. Yet, sometimes a partner may not cooperate. This can be an issue, but this is where communication really shines. Without a solid base of communication, your connection will fall apart.

Ethel: Yes! Be ready to interact with them occasionally even if you don’t like them. In my case, my partner didn’t want to give up his friendship for what I perceived to be issues. Fast forward, I actually got over my issues with his friend and we still talk and hang out even though the relationship with that partner ended. 

Edith: At the end of the day, the best I can recommend is to communicate your concerns rather than your negative mood. Even if you hate somebody, it may not be a good idea to say it to those who like them. Take some time to sit down, express your concerns and evaluate what solutions exist.

Ethel: So, Can’t Stand It, tread lightly and carefully. Reflect a lot on if it’s necessary before you take the plunge.